Japanese romantic gesture of picking up the boy's clothes

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Have you noticed that in several anime, dramas, movies, mangas and other Japanese media there is an iconic scene that makes the heart flutter? Do a very shy couple walk together when the girl decides to pull or hold on to the hem of the boy's shirt? In this article, we are going to talk about this gesture. romantic Japanese.

There is no correct term, but if you search for fuku or tsukamu [服を掴む] which literally means picking up clothes, you will find several images of this romantic scene. Another term you can look for is by suso or tsukamu [裾をつかむ] and fuku no suso o hipparu [服の裾を引っ張る] which literally means to grasp the scabbard.

Japanese romantic gesture of boy picking up and pulling clothes

Doing some research on this I realized that even the Japanese can't quite explain the full meaning behind this gesture. The only thing we know is that the Japanese favor indirect contacts better. Knowing a little more about this gesture can help us understand how a girl feels.

Why does picking up clothes make the heart flutter?

Pulling or grabbing the hem or sleeve of clothing is a classic gesture that makes men attracted for a long time. This is probably because since childhood, we are used to pulling an adult's clothes to draw attention to a certain thing. This causes a feeling of protection in adults.

Japanese romantic gesture of boy picking up and pulling clothes

Most of the time the man doesn't take the initiative to take the girl's hand or get closer to her. The woman usually holds her clothing to indicate her intention of wanting to shorten this physical distance. This gesture is often done unconsciously, a major result of Japanese shyness.

The Japanese love cute girls, this gesture causes a huge impression of shame which generates a lot of cuteness. This gesture clearly says to the man's face: I want to take your hand but I'm ashamed. Girls also use it so they don't pull away from their partner when they're in a crowded place and don't have the confidence to hold hands.

Japanese romantic gesture of boy picking up and pulling clothes

What does grabbing the shirt hem mean?

Some say that this gesture is to take the boy's heart. Taking the shirt is showing emotions and feelings openly, despite apparently acting in the opposite way, standing behind the boy with his face and eyes hidden. It also reminds me of the failed attempts to hold each other's hands.

This gesture is one of the best ways to conquer that boy, draw attention or warm up your relationship. A more daring way is to hold the shirt sleeve directly next to the hand, indicating the desire to hold it. Some women are bolder and grab the man from behind.

Japanese romantic gesture of boy picking up and pulling clothes

In the image above illustrated by kuro293939 he teaches a little about the sleeve art, but we can get some interesting information about the way girls usually hold the shirt hems:

  1. With the feet one forward and the other a little back, it gives the feeling that you are holding it with a little shame;
  2. It's a not-so-elegant way of holding because of fear. (Used in scenes where they go somewhere dangerous, kimodameshi….);
  3. By holding it with both hands it gives the feeling that she is desperate for him not to leave her;
  4. Holding it with only one hand, and the other being closed, it gives the feeling that her action required courage;

The ideal is to walk holding on to the boy's clothes. Just touching it and quickly taking it off can make a basic impression of drawing attention to a certain subject. What do you think of this Japanese romantic gesture? Have you noticed this in anime and got curious? We await your opinions in the comments and your possible sharing.

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