We already made a guide how to conquer and date a japanese girl, but when it comes to men and boys the situation is totally different. While in the West men need to work hard to win a girl, in Japan women need to work hard to win a man's heart.
Culturally the Japanese are very shy, even more so than women. The result is a population full of single adults with no romantic relationships. That's why many Japanese women prefer to interact with foreigners, because dealing with Japanese men is not usually easy.
Many western women dream of marrying Japanese, so we made this long guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese. Perhaps this guide will serve lightly for girls who want to win over other Asian men like Koreans or Chinese.
Remembering that if you want to conquer a Japanese descendant here in Brazil, most of the time they are like Brazilians, so use the standard methods. I personally recommend choosing your partner well, because both men and women today are so shallow, empty and selfish that they think only of pleasures rather than love.
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Myths and lies about relationships with Japanese boys
Some people watch anime too much and end up thinking that in general all Japanese men prefer cute girls in the style kawaii. It is true that cute girls stand out as Japanese beauty, but in reality there are few men who actually dress up as anime characters. Japan is not a country full of otakus as some think, they are a minority.
Some claim that Japanese people repudiate Western women, but in fact this mistake is due to several cultural reasons. I believe the same is true of Westerners who repudiate Japanese stereotypes or other generalizations. Even because it is really much easier to relate to people who speak your language and have your customs. If the person follows all the points mentioned in the article, there is no reason to worry about this generalized idea.
Some people believe that Japanese people are cold, but again this is a mistake due to cultural differences. If you really understand how the head of a japanese You won't have those stupid thoughts. Japanese people are raised from childhood to always think about others rather than themselves, they just don't have the facility to show it.
Yes, let's not deny that there are self-seeking, loveless, cheating and countless other negative aspects. This unfortunately is common in every culture, because every human being is different from one another, and evil is present in every land. You just don't have to be afraid or have negative thoughts about everything, otherwise you'll never be happy! Just be smart!
What do you need to know before conquering a Japanese?
Japanese men are usually quite different from each other, but they have similar characteristics. A Japanese can be sloppy or care too much about looks and beauty as much as a woman. Some men even wear makeup and take longer to get ready than a woman.
Japanese boys are usually not interested in foreign girls, some already find it hard to date Japanese girls, so imagine foreigners with all the cultural challenges? You have to work hard, chase it and be yourself! Some women think of using their Western body and appearance to their advantage, but try to prioritize your personality.
Japanese men like approachable, graceful, respectful, modest, innocent, friendly, sensitive and especially cute and shy girls. It can be an impossible mission for some girls, but remember that every human being is different, so you should analyze your moves and use the classic clichés of conquering and flirting.
The Japanese don't usually express their feelings in words, they usually do it with actions. We can see that many relationships in Japan start because the girl who confessed her feelings and not the man. Also don't try to go up by touching or grabbing the man as this is not common in Japan.
Remember if! Japanese men don't usually take the first step!
What to do to conquer a Japanese man?
Unfortunately, many Japanese end up caring too much about their appearance. So maybe you need to take good care of your skin, clothes and also try to lose some pounds because the Japanese competition is very thin and Japanese love thin (because they look fragile and cute). Don't give up if you don't fit these standards, because every pan has its lid, even a frying pan.
Don't even think about appealing to sensuality, some Japanese don't like that. Wear decent clothes that don't reveal too much, sometimes cute and childish clothes work better than certain cleavage. Be careful when flirting, Japanese don't like western boldness. You will need a lot of patience to conquer the Japanese you want!
Some care with the appearance is essential. Japanese people like girls who smell good, with a white smile and with poise. Maybe watching some anime and romance dramas can help you know how girls behave around men and how Japanese people react.
Japanese still prefer old ways, a perfume letter can be a good move to win the boy. Remember that February 14th is the Valentine's Day in Japan, you have to make a chocolate and give it as a gift to express your feelings. If he is interested, he will reciprocate on March 14th.
Other main points are:
- Learn about your culture;
- Learn the language;
- Understand Japanese humor;
- Be open-minded;
It is worth remembering that in Japan, it is not uncommon for girls to confess their love (kokuhaku). When the time is right you must express your feelings and be prepared for both responses. The no you already have! You need to run after the yes!
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Understanding a little the mind of Japanese men
There are a few things you need to know in order to have a good relationship or win over a Japanese person. Let's list some interesting things that Japanese men like below:
- Japanese men have a fetish for uniforms, whether school, office, tourism, flight attendant or others;
- Japanese men like women who act like housewives;
- The Japanese value their male friends very much;
- Half of Japanese men don't care if the woman is older;
- The relationships between Senpai and Kouhai for the Japanese are eternal;
- Japanese people often have a mother complex;
- Japanese men are basically children;
- For the Japanese, work is more important than love;
- The first things the Japanese observe in a woman, following in order, are: eyes, style, bust, hips, lips and legs;
- Japanese men don't tend to despise or hate their old relationships;
Now let's list some things Japanese men don't like and some points you need to know so you don't falter:
- Japanese men don't like to talk about their jobs;
- There are times when Japanese men want to be alone;
- Women who send messages all the time throughout the day;
- When women reject an invitation;
If you remember all the points mentioned in this article, you will know how to react during any encounter or relationship with Japanese men. The important thing is not to despair if you get into an uncomfortable situation. Intercultural relationships are successful when both parties accept the challenges each presents.
How to have a good relationship with Japanese people?
There is no secret, you will find men who are rude and arrogant, but you will also find men who are sensitive and compassionate. No matter what kind of men you meet, they are simple creatures to understand and deal with, basically children. It doesn't matter if you're Western or Asian, if you see a man with a smile on his face acting like a jerk, you've done it!
Basically just remember that Japanese men are slow, sentimental and shy. Also remember that Japanese rarely show affection in public or sometimes they will simply show their feelings with actions rather than words. Finally, we will again summarize the points mentioned in this and another article in a few words:
- Japanese men are very shy;
- Japanese men don't care about being single, so you have to fight;
- Be yourself;
- Have common sense, be moderate;
- No man is the same, adapt;
- Japanese men don't usually express their feelings with words;
- You need to understand and respect Japanese culture.
- You need to learn the basics of the Japanese language;
- You need to know what he likes;
- You need to be patient and take it slow;
- Declare yourself in the Japanese way (kokuhaku);
- Japanese people pay a lot of attention to appearance, so get ready;
- Japanese men also take great care of their appearance;
- Don't forget about important dates;
- Don't try too hard to scare the boy;
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