Guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese man

We’ve already made a guide how to conquer and date a japanese girl, but when it comes to men and boys the situation is totally different. While in the West men need to do a hard job to win a girl, in Japan women who need to work hard to win a man's heart.

Culturally Japanese are very shy, even more so than women. The result of this is a population full of single adults and having no romantic relationship. That is why many Japanese people prefer to have relationships with foreigners, because dealing with Japanese men is not usually easy.

Many Western women dream of marrying Japanese, so we have made this long guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese. Perhaps this guide will serve slightly for girls who want to win over other Asian men like Koreans or Chinese.

Remembering that if you want to conquer a Japanese descendant here in Brazil, most of the time they are like Brazilians, so use the standard methods. I personally recommend choosing your partner well, because both men and women today are very shallow, empty and selfish who think only of pleasures rather than love.

Guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese man

Myths and lies about relationships with Japanese boys

Some people watch too much anime and find that in general every Japanese man prefers cute girls in style kawaii. It is true that cute girls stand out as Japanese beauty, but in reality there are few men who really fantasize about characters like those of anime. Japan is not a country full of otaku as some think, they are a minority.

Some claim that Japanese people repudiate Western women, but in reality this mistake is due to several cultural issues. I believe the same is true of Westerners who dislike Japanese people can stereotypes or other generalizations. Especially because it is really much easier to relate to people who speak your language and have their customs. If the person follows all the points mentioned in the article, there is no reason to worry about this generalized idea.

Guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese man

Some believe that Japanese are cold, but again this is a mistake due to cultural differences. If you really understand how head of a Japanese you're not going to have those stupid thoughts. Japanese people are raised since childhood to always think about their neighbors rather than themselves, they just don't have the facility to show it.

Yes, let's not deny that there are Japanese self-interested, loveless, cheating and countless other negative aspects. This is unfortunately common in every culture, because each human being is different from each other, and evil is present in every land. Just don't be afraid or have negative thoughts about everything, otherwise you will never be happy! Just be smart!

What do you need to know before you conquer a Japanese?

Japanese men are often quite different from each other, but they have similar characteristics. A Japanese can be sloppy or care as much about looks and beauty as a woman does. Some men even wear makeup and take longer to get dressed than a woman.

Guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese man

Japanese boys are usually not interested in foreign girls, some already find it hard to date Japanese, so imagine foreigners with all the cultural challenges? You have to work hard, go for it and be yourself! Some women think of using their body and western appearance to their advantage, but try to prioritize your personality.

Japanese men like girls who are accessible, graceful, respectful, modest, innocent, friendly, sensitive and especially cute and shy. It can be an impossible mission for some girls, but remember that every human being is different, so you should analyze your moves and use the classic clichés of conquest and flirting.

The Japanese don't usually express their feelings in words, they usually do it with actions. We can see that many relationships in Japan start because the girl who confessed her feelings and not the man. Also don't try to go up by touching or grabbing the man as this is not common in Japan.

Guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese man

Remember if! Japanese men don't usually take the first step!

What to do to conquer a Japanese man?

Unfortunately, many Japanese people end up caring too much about their appearance. So you may need to take good care of your skin, clothing and also try to lose a few pounds because Japanese competition is very thin and Japanese people love skinny (because they look fragile and fluffy). Don't give up if you don't fit these standards, because each pot has its lid, even a frying pan.

Don't even think about appealing to sensuality, some Japanese don't like that. Wear decent clothes that don't reveal too much, sometimes cute baby clothes work better than certain cleavage. Be careful when flirting, Japanese don't like western boldness. You will need a lot of patience to conquer the Japanese you want!

Guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese man

Some care of appearance is essential. Japanese people like girls who smell good, with a white smile and posture. Perhaps watching some anime and romance dramas can help you learn how girls behave around men and how Japanese people react.

Japanese people still prefer ancient methods, a card with perfume can be a good move to win the boy. Remember that February 14th is the Valentine's Day in Japan, you need to make a chocolate and give it away to express your feelings. If he is interested he will pay back on March 14th.

Other main points are: 

  • Learn about your culture;
  • Learn the language;
  • Understand Japanese humor;
  • Keep an open mind;

Remember that in Japan, it is not uncommon for girls to confess their love (kokuhaku). When the time is right you must express your feelings and be prepared for both responses. The no you already have! You need to run after the yes!

Guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese man

Understanding Japanese men's heads a little

There are a few things you need to know in order to have a good relationship or win over a Japanese. Let's list some interesting things that Japanese men like below:

  • Japanese men have a fetish for uniforms, be it high school, office, tourism, flight attendant or others;
  • Japanese men like women who act like housewives;
  • The Japanese highly value their male friends;
  • Half of Japanese men don't care if the woman is older;
  • The relations between Senpai and Kouhai for the Japanese are eternal;
  • Japanese people usually have a maternal complex;
  • Japanese men are basically children;
  • For Japanese people, work is more important than love;
  • The first things that the Japanese observe in a woman, following the order are: eyes, style, bust, hips, lips and legs;
  • Japanese men do not usually despise or hate their old relationships;
Guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese man

Now let's list some things that Japanese men don't like and some points you need to know in order not to falter:

  • Japanese men don't like to talk about their job;
  • There are times when Japanese men want to be alone;
  • Women who send messages all the time throughout the day;
  • When women reject an invitation;

If you remember all the points mentioned in this article, you will know how to react during an encounter or relationship with Japanese men. The important thing is not to despair if you get into any uncomfortable situation. Intercultural relationships are successful when both parties accept the challenges that each presents.

Guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese man

How to have a good relationship with Japanese people?

There is no secret, you will find rude and arrogant men, but you will also find sensitive and compassionate men. No matter what type of man you meet, they are simple creatures to understand and deal with, they are basically children. It doesn't matter if you are Western or Asian, if you see a man with a smile on his face acting like a goofball, you did it!

Basically just remember that Japanese men are slow, sentimental and shy. Also remember that Japanese rarely show affection in public or sometimes they will simply show their feelings with actions rather than words. Finally, we will again summarize the points mentioned in this and another article in a few words:

  • Japanese men are very shy;
  • Japanese men don't worry about being single, so you need to fight;
  • Be yourself;
  • Have common sense, be moderate;
  • No man is the same, adapt;
  • Japanese men do not usually express their feelings with words;
  • You need to understand and respect Japanese culture;
  • You need to learn the basics of the Japanese language;
  • You need to know what he likes;
  • You need to be patient and take it slow;
  • Declare yourself in the Japanese way (kokuhaku);
  • Japanese people look a lot at appearance, so get ready;
  • Japanese men also take great care of their appearance;
  • Don't forget the important dates;
  • Don't try too hard to scare the boy;

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