How to conquer and date a Japanese girl - Tips and curiosities

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Did you know a Japanese woman and you have no idea how to conquer her? You have no idea how Japanese dating works? In this article we will see all the details of how you can conquer and date a Japanese woman.

The tips in this article will help not only men win over Japanese girls, but can also help women understand how a Japanese head works. Just the girls reverse engineer this article and apply some of the advice written here. Girls can read our article on how to conquer Japanese men.

Guia definitivo de como conquistar e namorar uma japonesa

This is not a flirting guide

I want to make it clear that no human being is like another, we don't want you to create expectations and stereotypes with this article. Many end up being disgusted with this type of article and guide, not understanding the true intention of the article.

The purpose of this article is to specify how Japanese dating works and how you can get into Japanese customs and do things in the most correct and appropriate way possible. We use the term conquer Japanese to attract more readers, but we do not intend to support this type of flirtatious content.

Keep in mind that many Japanese or descendants who live in Brazil have no knowledge of Japanese culture or language. Don't imagine that we are creating an infallible guide or saying that all girls are the same.

Sometimes you will need to use standard methods to win over a girl who probably has no interest in Japan, let alone anime and manga.

I don't want them to think I'm stereotyping Japanese women, there is no rule book or guide for winning specific girls. I still need to use the term conquer Japanese if readers don't find the article.

Although there are specific cultures, the tips may or may not work for any girl, regardless of nationality. Rather, this guide is about scientific and cultural studies of common behaviors, not generalizations or machismo.

What do you need to know before winning a Japanese woman?

The first thing you need to know is that Many Japanese are extremely shy. This is the main factor that prevents many relationships from happening. Things happen as slowly as possible in Japanese relationships, maybe your Brazilian socializing skills can make you stand out or push the girl away.

If you are interested in just staying or taking a Japanese girl, I think it is best to be aware that most Japanese women are delicate and usually have a good time. moral. In this guide you will understand that winning a Japanese girl takes effort and having real love and not just desires.

Guia definitivo de como conquistar e namorar uma japonesa

Japanese culture is often extremely shameful when it comes to affection in public. Things like kisses, hugs and even holding hands can be a difficulty in the beginning of the relationship because of the couple's shyness.

Of course, you find Japanese women shot and shameless, just as you find Japanese women who only have sex after marriage, even though there are no religious laws. Let it be clear in your mind that no woman is the same, do not stereotype women just because they are Japanese or because there are certain cultural customs in Japan.

It’s impossible to write a guide to conquering Japanese because even if they follow a cultural pattern, there are still sub-cultures like moekei, tsundere, burikko, kigatsuyoi, gyaru and many others. Not to mention descendants, and the country's regional cultural differences. A girl from Osaka is totally different from a girl from Tokyo or Okinawa.

The best and main tip is: Meet the girl, show interest in her and be her friend. Just by getting to know each girl individually you will be able to win her over! Still I hope the tips in this article will help you get an idea of what to do when trying to win a Japanese girl.

Main myths in the Japanese relationship

A lot of people think that Japanese are cold people, one of the greatest myths of humanity. This certain coldness that some Brazilians believe exists is one of the results of extreme shyness and Japanese customs. The great truth is that the Japanese have always been taught to put others before themselves.

A Japanese girlfriend is unlikely to explode and expose her feelings and anger. You need to be very observant to know what the girl is thinking about you. When you have a relationship with a Japanese woman you will understand that even if she is very angry with something she will hardly ever expose it. Since this is just a stereotype, you may have the chance to win over a Japanese woman who speaks everything she thinks.

Guia definitivo de como conquistar e namorar uma japonesa

Another mistake is to think that you don't stand a chance with a Japanese girl because you are not Japanese. This idea of the ancient Japanese tradition of dating Japanese women no longer exists. On the contrary, the Japanese end up preferring foreigners exactly because they are not so shy.

Is it true that Japanese parents do not approve of relationships with foreigners? It is true that many parents are conservative, but most of the time parents look to see if the suitor is properly prepared for a relationship. They usually look at their job, financial condition, customs and culture. Just be respectful like a Japanese!

Despite the habit of not showing affection in public, it doesn't mean that you don't find it on the streets. It is much rarer than in Brazil but you will find affection in public in the streets like kisses and hugs. This is more of a stereotype that people create about Japan, there is no law prohibiting affection in public.

Como conquistar e namorar uma japonesa – dicas e curiosidades

Tips on how to win a Japanese

You should be aware of the traditional tips for winning a girl regardless of her nationality. Girls have similar characteristics like running their hands through their hair and directing their legs at you when you're interested. You should always be an observer and try to catch these signals in conversation.

You should take into account the famous cliché tips on how to be elegant, gentle and sociable. You must let go of shame, create opportunities and make the girl laugh (that's the key). Do not try too hard to scare the girl, know how to talk and take at least 30 seconds before viewing and replying to a message.

Some Japanese girls like to be treated like a princess, in a sweet and gentle way. Of course, you shouldn't do this in a frightening way, don't be mushy and don't overdo it, just do simple things and gentleman gestures like opening the door, carrying something heavy or sending a message asking how your day went. Especially because being a gentleman is the obligation of every man of respect.

There are things that can make a Japanese girl's heart flutter (doki-doki) like rolling up her shirt sleeves, taking something off a high shelf for her and even patting her on the head. Of course, to make these gestures it is good to have a certain intimacy and do it at the right time. These are simple gestures you can do to impress any girl.

Guia definitivo de como conquistar e namorar uma japonesa

Meeting and talking to a Japanese woman

First, be yourself! Nobody likes someone who impersonates someone else. Then try to find out what the Japanese likes. Try looking at your social networks like Instagram to look for commonalities and try to apply them in a conversation. Having a basic knowledge of Japanese culture and the Japanese language is essential if you want to conquer a native Japanese woman who follows cultural customs.

One of the great difficulties of winning a Japanese woman is that she will almost never show interest first. Unless you are a Japanese woman in her 30s, where culturally it is the age where some are desperate in search of a husband (I am not saying this, just watch a drama), I say from experience.

Never try anything in front of other people, some Japanese people just hate to feel pressured. For example, trying something in front of her friends is one of the worst things you can do. No woman likes to be smothered or uncomfortable, so expect her to be alone to try certain moves.

Guia definitivo de como conquistar e namorar uma japonesa

When talking to a Japanese woman alone, it can be much easier for her to expose herself and talk about the things she likes or about certain subjects that she would hardly speak in public. Always remember to go slow, shy women do not appreciate certain gestures or attitudes that are too direct. Trying to hurry things up is digging your own grave and scaring the girl.

Saying he likes the girl and asking her out

You need to be more confident, show that you are a determined man and a friend. The Japanese prefer people close to them as a friend, perhaps the friend zone is not a dangerous place as it seems. After you have a friendship, many conversations in common and clues that she is interested in, you can try to declare yourself or ask her out on a date.

The Japanese usually declare their love (kokuhaku) before they start dating or even leave. It is logical that to do this you need to be absolutely sure that you want to expose your feelings and find the right time for that. If you win over the girl, it may happen that she confesses her love for you. Make sure you spend a good deal of time with her.

Guia definitivo de como conquistar e namorar uma japonesa

Culturally, Japanese women are extremely polite and can easily accept your request to go on a date. It doesn't mean that she is interested in you, maybe she just didn't mean no. Others refuse to leave, but that doesn't mean she doesn't like you, she may just be scared and shy.

Some Japanese women wait for the right date to enter into a relationship or have a date. The end of the school year, Valentine's Day and Christmas are the main dates for romantic dates. Just be careful not to go out inviting the girl without understanding how these dates work culturally.

Other tips on Japanese relationships

Don't think about asking her to live with you unless you want to get married. If you live together without getting married, the parents should already be preparing the wedding ceremony and the girl is probably thinking about the babies' names. This is a joke, but it is good to make sure or make clear your intentions in the relationship.

Como conquistar e namorar uma japonesa – dicas e curiosidades

In Japan, girls present in the Valentine's Day on February 14th. On March 14th the boys must return this gift on a holiday called white day. The real Valentine's Day in the West takes place in Christmas Eve. Remember to spend it with your girl and not with the family.

Of course, things don't stop there, there are several articles on our website that go deeper into the subject of relationships with Japanese people. Below we will leave a list of articles that you can read later.

Guia definitivo de como conquistar e namorar uma japonesa

Points for success in a Japanese relationship

I want to end this article by making a checklist of points that we covered. So you can make a quick summary of the main points that you should keep in mind when conquering and dating a Japanese or any other girl regardless of nationality.

  • Be yourself;
  • Have common sense, be moderate;
  • No girl (o) is the same, adapt;
  • Japanese women are shy, shameful and fearful;
  • Parents are not a difficulty;
  • Japanese women do not usually express their feelings;
  • You need to understand and respect Japanese culture;
  • You need to learn the basics of the Japanese language;
  • You need to know what she likes;
  • You need to be patient and take it slow;
  • Treat the girl like a princess, make small gestures;
  • Declare yourself in the Japanese way (kokuhaku);
  • Spend a lot of time with the girl, become a friend;
  • Don't pressure the girl;
  • Don't forget the important dates;
  • Don't try too hard to scare the girl;

To end the article I will leave a nice video of a foreigner interviewing Japanese people about relationships and marriages with foreigners. Just activate the subtitles on youtube to understand what they are saying in Portuguese: