You met a Japanese woman and you have no idea how to conquer her? Don’t you have any idea how Japanese dating works? In this article we will see all the details of how you can conquer and date a Japanese.
The tips contained in this article will help not only men win over Japanese girls, but can also help women understand how a Japanese’s head works. All we have to do is reverse engineer this article and apply some of the advice written here. Girls can read our article on how to win over Japanese man.
Table of Contents - That's not a flirting guide - What do you need to know? - Myths of Japanese relationships - Tips on how to conquer a Japanese - Getting to know and talking to a Japanese woman - Saying you like the girl and inviting her out - Other tips on Japanese relationships - Points to succeed in a Japanese relationship
This is not a flirting guide
I want to make it clear that no human being is the same as another, we don’t want you to create expectations and stereotypes with this article. Many end up being disgusted by this kind of article and guide, not understanding the true intention of the article.
The purpose of this article is to specify how Japanese dating works and how you can enter Japanese customs and do things in the right est possible way. We use the term Conquer Japanese to attract more readers, but it is not our intention to support this type of flirting content.
Keep in mind that many Japanese or descendants living in Brazil are unaware of Japanese culture or language. Don’t imagine we’re creating a foolproof guide or saying that all girls are the same.
Sometimes you will need to use the standard methods to conquer a girl who probably has no shred of interest in Japan, let alone in animes and manga.
I don’t want you to think I’m stereotyping The Japanese, there’s no rule book or a guide to conquering specific girls. I still need to use the term Conquer Japanese if readers do not find the article.
Although there are specific cultures, the tips may or may not serve any girl, regardless of nationality. On the contrary, this guide is about scientific and cultural studies of common behaviors, not generalizations or machismo.
What do you need to know before you conquer a Japanese woman?
The first thing you need to know is that many Japanese are extremely shy. This is the main factor that prevents many relationships from happening. Things happen as slowly as possible in Japanese relationships, perhaps your Brazilian skills of socializing can leave you in the spotlight or drive the girl away at once.
If you are interested in just staying or picking up a Japanese, I think it’s best to be aware that most Japanese women are delicate and usually have good morale. In this guide you will understand that conquering a Japanese girl requires effort and having real love and not just desires.
Japanese culture is often extremely shameful when it comes to affection in public. Things like kisses, hugs and even taking the hand can be a difficulty at the beginning of the relationship because of the shyness of the couple.
Of course you find Japanese thrown and shameless, just as you find Japanese who only have sex after marriage, even if there is no religious law. Let it be clear in your mind that no woman is the same, don’t stereotype women just because they’re Japanese or because there are certain cultural customs in Japan.
It is impossible to write a guide to conquer Ing Japanese because even if they follow a cultural pattern, there are still subcultures such as moekei, tsundere, burikko, kigatsuyoi, gyaru and many others. This without mentioning descendants, and the regional cultural differences of the country. A girl from Osaka is totally different from a girl from Tokyo or Okinawa.
The best and main tip is: Meet the girl, show interest in her and be friends with her. Just knowing each girl individually you will be able to conquer her! Still, I hope the tips in this article help you get an idea of what to do when trying to conquer a Japanese woman.
Main myths in the Japanese relationship
A lot of people think Japanese are cold people, one of humanity’s greatest myths. This certain coldness that some Brazilians believe exists is one of the results of extreme shyness and Japanese customs. The great truth is that the Japanese are always taught to put the next before themselves.
Hardly a Japanese girlfriend will explode and expose her feelings and anger. You need to be very observant to know what the girl is thinking of you. By relating to a Japanese woman you will understand that even if she is very angry about something she will hardly expose it. Since this is just a stereotype, you may have a chance to win over a Japanese woman who speaks everything you think.
Another mistake is to think you don’t have a chance with a Japanese one because you’re not Japanese. This idea of ancient Japanese tradition dating Japanese no longer exists. On the contrary, Japanese end up preferring foreigners exactly because they are not so shy.
Is it true that Japanese parents don’t approve of relationships with foreigners? It is true that many parents are conservative, but most of the time parents look at whether the suitor is properly prepared for a relationship. They usually look at their jobs, their financial condition, their customs and their culture. Just be respectful as a Japanese!
Despite the custom of not showing affection in public, it does not mean that you do not find this on the streets. It is much rarer than in Brazil but you will rather find affection in public on the streets like kisses and hugs. This is more of a stereotype that people create about Japan, there is no law prohibiting affection in public.
Tips on how to conquer a Japanese
You should be aware of the traditional tips of conquering a girl regardless of your nationality. Girls have equal characteristics like passing their hands on their hair and directing their legs to you when you’re interested. You should always be an observer and try to pick up those signals in a conversation.
You should take into consideration the famous clichétips like being elegant, gentlemanand sociable. You should drop the shame aside, create opportunities and make the girl laugh (that’s the key). Don’t try too hard to scare the girl, know how to talk and take at least 30 seconds before viewing and replying to a message.
Some Japanese girls like to be treated like a princess in a sweet and gentle way. Of course you shouldn’t do it scary, don’t be corny and don’t overdo it, just do simple things and gentlemen’ gestures like opening the door, carrying something heavy or sending a message asking how your day was. Because being a gentleman is every man’s obligation to respect.
There are things that can make the heart of a Japanese throb (doki-doki) like roll up the manga of the shirt, take something off a high shelf for her and even pat her on the head. Of course, to make these gestures it’s good to have a certain intimacy and do it at the right time. These are simple gestures that you can make to impress any girl.
Getting to know and talking to a Japanese woman
First, be yourself! Nobody likes someone who goes through someone else. Then try to find out what the Japanese like. Try looking at your social networks like Instagram to look for common aspects and try to apply them in a conversation. Having a basic knowledge of Japanese culture and japanese language is fundamental if you want to conquer a native Japanese woman who follows cultural customs.
One of the great difficulties of conquering a Japanese is that she will almost never show interest first. Unless you’re a Japanese woman in your 30s, where culturally it’s the age where some are desperate in search of a husband (I’m not the one who’s saying this, just watch a dorama), I say from experience.
Never try anything in front of other people, some Japanese just hate feeling pressured. For example, trying something in front of her friends is one of the worst things you can do. No woman likes to be suffocated or feel uncomfortable, so wait for her to be alone to try certain bids.
When talking to a Japanese woman alone, it can be much easier for her to expose herself and talk about the things she likes or certain subjects she would hardly speak in public. Always remember to slow down, shy women don’t appreciate certain gestures or attitudes that are too direct. Trying to rush things is to dig your own grave and scare the girl.
Saying you like the girl and inviting her out
You need to pass on more confidence, show you’re a determined man and friend. Japanese prefer close people as a friend zone, perhaps the friend zone is not a dangerous place as it seems. Once you have a friendship, lots of common conversations and clues that she’s interested in, you can try to declare yourself or call her on a date.
The Japanese usually declare their love (kokuhaku) before they start dating or even leave. It is logical that to do this you need to be fully sure that you want to expose your feelings and find the right time for this. If you conquer the girl, it may happen that she confesses her love for you. Make sure you spend a lot of time with her.
Culturally, Japanese are extremely polite and can easily accept their request to leave on a date. That doesn’t mean she’s interested in you, maybe she just didn’t mean no. Others refuse to leave, but it doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you, she may just be scared and shy.
Some Japanese wait for the right date to enter a relationship or have a date. The end of the school year, Valentine’s Day and Christmas are the main dates for romantic encounters. Just be careful not to go out inviting the girl without understanding how these dates work culturally.
Other tips on Japanese relationships
Don’t think about calling her to live with you unless you wish to get married. If you live together without marrying parents, you should be preparing the wedding ceremony and the girl is probably thinking about the babies’ names. That’s a joke, but it’s good to make sure or make clear your intentions in the relationship.
In Japan the girls present on Valentine’s Day on February 14. On March 14, boys must repay this gift on a holiday called white day. The real same Valentine’s Day in the West happens on Christmas Eve. Remember to spend it with your girl and not with family.
Of course things don’t stop there, there are several articles on our website that delve deeper into the subject of relationships with Japanese. Below we will leave a list of articles that you can read later.
Points to succeed in a Japanese relationship
I want to finalize this article by checkingout the points we address. So you can make a quick summary of the main points you should keep in mind when conquering and dating a Japanese or any other girl regardless of nationality.
- Be yourself;
- Have common sense, be moderate;
- No girl is the same, adapt;
- Japanese are shy, shameful and fearful;
- Parents are not a difficulty;
- Japanese women do not usually expose their feelings;
- You need to understand and respect Japanese culture;
- You need to learn the basics of the Japanese language;
- You need to know what she likes;
- You need to be patient and slow;
- Treat the girl like a princess, make little gestures;
- Declare yourself in the Japanese way (kokuhaku);
- Spend a lot of time with the girl, become a friend;
- Do not press the girl;
- Don’t forget the important dates;
- Don’t work too hard to scare the girl;
To finalize the article I’ll leave a legal video of a foreigner interviewing Japanese about relationships and marriages with foreigners. Just activate youtube subtitles to understand what they’re talking about Portuguese: