If you’ve ever watched a Japanese novel like Dorama or Anime, you must have realized how extremely shy the Japanese are. Maybe you were in that anxiety when they are going to kiss? And sometimes it doesn’t even happen.
This doesn’t just happen in drama or anime. Although Japan is open to sexual matters, it is very close to relationships. Even to the point that men are much more shy than women. It is worth remembering that: The Japanese are not all the same!
The Japanese like to express themselves more with gestures and attitudes, due to shyness they give little praise, they are not cold, just shy, you should keep that in mind.
In this article, we will examine a little bit about how Japanese people relate / date. I want to make it clear that everything written in the article is relative! Nowadays people are more and more radical and are constantly changing. Do not take everything written here literally, each person is different from the other.
How many Japanese are you dating?
This is also quite relative. Like everyone, there are those beautiful passions that appear in childhood, probably nobody even knows about these passions. Of course, it can happen that young people get along, even innocently. The probability of walking is small because of shyness, or maybe not, as it seems that shyness develops when it grows.
Dating starts more when you are close to college, some even after college end up single. Yet, even if rare, those arranged marriages, known as "Omiai".
How are Japanese dating?
Shyness results in a great challenge for couples in Japan, due to culture, things like taking the hand and kissing in public, can be quite rare. Even when they are alone, the couple may have difficulty initiating a kiss. Facing eye to eye can make them uncomfortable and even uncomfortable due to extreme shyness.
Communication takes place discreetly, through messages, clues and indirect. They expect the person to understand what is being said, since they do not have the courage to say it.
How do the Japanese start a relationship?
Due to shyness it can be difficult to declare yourself to someone you love. Japanese people usually wait for the right moment as as the end of the school year, Valentine Day, White Day it's the Christmas. (In Japan, Christmas is a day for couples to go out)
Japanese people also use e-mail and messages, or telephone to declare themselves. Those who are already of age, and are after a date look for social networking sites, to find the loved one.
Friends and couples often arrange group meetings, known as Gōkon (合コン). Where each one is responsible for taking friends of the same sex to meet and make friends in restaurants, and izakaya. Other groups of friends prefer to have fun in karaoke or in parks and take advantage of such opportunities to get to know each other and with hopes of finding a relationship.
Japanese dating intimacy
Japan is not just dominated by shyness. In the way that I speak it may even seem that the Japanese have no interest in having those intimate relationships ... On the contrary, Japan is famous for its motels of all kinds. Although it is not visible, in almost all relationships the couple has their desires just does not let it surface, and sometimes they end up messing up, even at the time of the wedding. Although religion is open to sex before marriage, the Japanese can hope, something that some Christian religions have not been able to do.
The lack of sex among Japanese couples has become a TV issue, but I blame it on overwork. To say that all Japanese people are shy, and that there is no Western style dating, is wrong. Japan has its perverts, it is even one of the countries that most consume erotic materials. And you don’t need to be ashamed to find a Japanese man reading an erotic manga on a train, they are quite open to this subject, despite the enormous difficulty of relating.
This is probably the result of shyness, as people find it difficult to relate, they end up spending their lives with games and relationship and erotic manga. On the other hand, this has resulted in a country with a lower rate of rapes, as perverted Japanese people lack the courage, and the most they do is steal a pair of panties.
And if you want to bond with Japanese people and are afraid that they will not want to do that constantly, don’t worry. The fault of this happens is the couples, if you go up and get it when you want!
A little bit of Japanese
To describe a little about Japanese dating, we will also leave a list of words related to this subject, in the Japanese language.
- 恋 - Koi - Passion
- 恋人 - Koibito - Girlfriend (o) / Couple (Literally Passion + Person)
- 恋してる - koishiteru - In love / In love
- Ai - Ai - Love
- 愛してる - I love you - Used between couples;
- 好きです - I like you / I love you
- 彼 - Kare - Him (also means boyfriend)
- 彼女 - Kanojo - She (It also means girlfriend)
- 結婚 - Kekkon - Wedding
- 妻 - Tsuma - Wife
- 夫 - Otto - Husband
- ラブ - Rabu - Originated the word Love
Relationship with foreigners?
Many search for articles of this type, interested in whether it is possible to have a good relationship with Japanese people. Yes it is possible, there is no such coldness, prejudice or machismo that people talk about.
Women: The Japanese are very interested in foreigners, mainly because they are less shy, and are not ashamed to express themselves. Research reports that 1 in 4 Japanese people prefer to marry a foreigner.
Men: Despite so many comments saying that Japanese men don't like foreign women, this is not true. This rumor was probably due to the Japanese shyness.
Foreigners: Why do many foreigners prefer a relationship with Japanese people? It is probably because they are true, trustworthy and timid.
I myself like the Japanese for all the reasons mentioned above, the personality and the culture, and the beautiful hair, eyes, and the kawaii face that takes time to grow old.
Preconception? - There are many conservative and closed families that can impede your relationship with a Japanese person, especially if you are not financially prepared.
Tips for relating to a Japanese
If you intend to have a relationship with a Japanese person, keep the following tips in mind:
- Understand Japanese Humor;
- Respect Japanese Culture;
- Learn the Japanese language;
- Be patient! Go slow!
- Don't expect too much!
If you keep these points in mind, it will be easier to relate to the Japanese. It is not difficult, and do not let others make up your mind! Although it is complex and difficult to describe Japanese relationships. We can summarize them in shy and innocent. And we must remember: Not all Japanese are the same!
Is that you? Tell us about your relationship with the Japanese? Feel free to add anything related to the subject.