Some complain that life in Japan or abroad is difficult. We even wrote a article talking about it and explaining that many complain with a full belly. In this article we want to show you some thoughts, mistakes and attitudes that are responsible for making life difficult for people in Japan or in another country.
I think we can start by talking about one of the main attitudes responsible for unhappiness, the act of complaining. It is not wrong for people to complain for their rights, the big problem is that people complain without any valid reason.
The person who complains a lot is usually a negative person who is never satisfied with anything. So being negative and complaining are key points that will be present in some attitudes that we are going to mention in this article.
Japan is hard because I'm not Japanese
People get the idea that they will always be foreigners in Japan and that this makes their lives difficult. Thinking this way will not benefit you at all! you will never be treated like a japanese, think of it as a positive thing.
you had the privilege to go to japan, just having managed to immigrate to another country is already a victory. It doesn't matter if you work in a factory or not, you need to be positive!
You are a foreigner in Japan, you are a rare gem! Some will treat you differently or with preconception? Yeah, what's the problem? Show that you are a successful alien, show your superiority!
There are thousands of successful foreigners in Japan, and with many Japanese people admiring them, that's because they never gave up! In the same way that you can be prejudiced, you are something different in Japan and Japanese people like different things!
You don't move to another country to be someone important or become a native, you move to join society and fulfill your dreams. Being an immigrant is a great thing, but you have to accept it!
Does the fact that you're a foreigner make you miss something? Possibly so, especially with your pessimism! The Japanese don't care if you're an immigrant or not, they want you to strive to fit into Japanese society, starting with the Language.
That's right! Most Brazilians living in Japan haven't learned the language and are complaining? It's no use being Japanese if you're out of sync with Japan, you'd suffer prejudice in the same way.
I'm lonely - The Japanese are cold and closed off
Brazilians like to hug and touch people while they talk, this is not a custom in Japan. This alone becomes a reason for people to go out screaming in public squares that the Japanese are cold and closed off.
Those who have real Japanese friends know all too well how loving, humble, hospitable and fun they are.
It is a big mistake to imagine that the Japanese are cold and closed off. This makes you close the doors yourself to having friends and contacts in Japan. A friendship starts with a simple conversation and not with a hug, gossip and intimate conversations.
The process of making friends with strangers, especially foreigners, is a slower process. Must be fluent in Japanese! When we speak fluently, our friendship will flow much more, we will have more subjects, more leisure options and we will be introduced to more people.
Understand the limitations of the Japanese – The Japanese are shy, which makes it difficult to socialize with them. Remember that the Japanese don't like to talk about their personal lives or the lives of others unless you are a close friend.
Understand their customs and culture! Getting to know the person is the basics! Get to know the person before you go out saying they are closed and cold! Japan has social problems, but you can easily break that barrier.
In Brazil it was better, I had this and that
Was it better? So why did you leave there? Commenting and comparing life in Japan with life in Brazil is one of the great causes of the difficulty of your life.
Remember that you are no longer in your home country, so forget about it! You decided to leave Brazil and you were aware that your life was going to change. As you complain about your new home, people will show up and say: So why don't you come back?
Nobody likes people who keep making comparisons or criticizing things in the country. Doing this will drive people away from you, then no native invites you to those happy moments anymore and you don't understand why.
There is no better or perfect country, you can have your opinion, you can find one place better than the other, but don't spit on your plate. It doesn't matter if you think the food or the people there is better, complaining about it will only bring misery to your life.
in fact the personal opinion when unsolicited is another mistake that can make life difficult for a foreigner. Opinion should only be given when requested. We can see this currently on social networks, many express their personal opinion and this has generated a lot of bullshit and discussions.
If you think or think this or that, only say so if someone asks! Unfortunately we were raised in an environment where we say what we want, whatever the hell... but in Japan or other countries you shouldn't act like that, they value politeness, respect, humility and honesty.
Other thoughts and attitudes that make it difficult
Breaking rules – It seems that breaking rules is part of Brazilian culture. In Japan, the natives take the rules seriously, no matter how small they are. We shouldn't think that rules were made to be broken, we should be like the Japanese in punctuality and honesty.
Your bad attitude starts from littering, drinking and driving, cutting lines or evading taxes… Just because other people do wrong things, you're going to be a sucker and do it too? Think hard and don't break the rules. You can only win by obeying the rules!
decent work – Some work in factories or work a lot of overtime and tend to complain about it all their lives and do not take any action to change. You have 2 choices, try to change your life or accept this routine that you complain so much about, because unfortunately complaining won't get you anywhere.
I would just like to add that having a positive and cheerful attitude along with a smile is the first step towards success in life, even if it is in factories. If you're tired of the long work routine, try to reduce the workload, your well being is more important than money. And just because you are accommodated, be sure to seek knowledge!
We can come to the conclusion that if we respect the rules, swallow our pride and become more humble, we will have a much easier life in Japan. What do you think? We'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments, and we'd really appreciate it if you'd share this text.
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