Misconceptions and misconceptions often spread like water. Sometimes people have an experience and spread it, thus making people believe and have the wrong ideas about a particular subject.
Because of these gossip, Brazilians have an idea that Japanese are cold and independent. I had a totally different vision and experience on my trip to Japan in 2016. With my personal experience, Brazilians and even Japanese, and after many research, I wrote this article to discuss the subject.
Why do people have this idea?
There are many reasons why people come to that conclusion that Japanese are cold. Cultural differences, Japanese immigrants living in Brazil, the influence of ancient Japan and several other factors.
One of the points that Brazilians use to say that the Japanese are cold is the lack of contact, that handshake and hugs that happen among Brazilians. But all this is a matter of respect and hygiene, Japanese who have a great friendship and intimacy feel the urge to lean against each other.
Another thing that might lead to thinking that Japanese are cold is the lack of communication with unknown people. If you get on a train, hardly anyone will pull conversation with you. But this is because no one wants to make noise, or because of the great shyness that exists among the Japanese, especially if you are a foreigner, this ends up becoming a greater difficulty for them to communicate.
Of course, there are some scenes in Japan and even with immigrants and descendants living in Brazil. This ends up making people have this idea that Japanese are cold. But all this is taken widespread and ends up fouling the names of the Japanese. What makes me sadder is the fact that Brazilians say that Japanese are cold, within so many horrible cases of coldness that happen within our country.
Of course there are cold Japanese, just as there are cold Brazilians. A great fact is that Japanese are reserved, avoid contact with strangers, avoid meddling in the lives of others, and especially bothering others. The Japanese have a serious problem of communication and socializing, but this is mostly due to their shyness. This also results in the difficulty of demonstrating emotions and affections.
How are the Japanese?
Japanese is the opposite of cold and independent. Do you know what a cold person is? A cold person has no feelings, does not cry, does not show feeling pain, fear, anger or sadness. Now watch a Japanese Dorama or Anime so you can see as much weeping and drama you have. Japanese do their utmost to prevent their problems from affecting other people, for this reason they avoid crying, complaining and demonstrating their feelings and weaknesses, but they possess all this and when it bursts from to see that Japanese are quite the opposite of people Cold.
I don’t even need to comment much on the individuality of the Japanese, because the opposite is clearly visible. The Japanese are independent and try to solve their problems on their own, but they always work in teams and do everything they can to help others. The Japanese people were created to think about the next and not themselves.
The Japanese apply well the “golden rule” or “ethics of reciprocity” where each should treat others as they would like it to be treated themselves.
We can’t say that Japanese are independent just because they keep their feelings and problems just for themselves. In reality they always work as a team, teamwork is taken very seriously in Japan. People who want to be independent in Japan are seen with bad eyes.
My experience with the Japanese
I also thought Japan would have a slightly cold climate, and I saw some signs of individuality and coldness. But I also saw quite the opposite, smiling people, talking and laughing all the time. Education is a thousand, I’m tired of hearing sumimasen (apologies). All the time, sometimes the person wouldn’t even touch me and apologize. Not to mention the service, people had complete patience and answered me with a smile on their faces.
You could feel the regional difference between Tokyo and Kansai. In Tokyo no stranger spoke to me, but as i climbed a mountain in Kyoto, all the Japanese who passed me greeted me, one even gave me a chocolate. Meanwhile all the foreigners who passed me spoke absolutely nothing.
I also noticed a lot of demonstration of affection in public. I saw Japanese clinging, kissing and always holding hands, the opposite of what people talked about. I had the opportunity to stay in the house of several Japanese families and witnessed a wonderful environment, full of love and affection. I didn’t really notice anything cold in Japan, everything to me was beautiful and warm. Of course, each person has different experiences, but doesn’t draw conclusions because of some people.
And remember, I’m not saying that the lives of the Japanese are perfect and that everyone is happy and smiling. But I noticed that there are many Japanese who prefer to smile and forget about problems rather than have a cold and distant appearance.
And now? Are the Japanese cold?
The simple fact that the Japanese do not have much physical contact such as handshake or hug does not indicate coldness. The fact that the Japanese keep their problems and feelings to themselves, or if they keep most of their time alone, does not show independence. Many Japanese really end up isolating themselves, and do not share their feelings and problems to others. This is a big problem that may end up resulting in suicides or depression.
But it is worth remembering that there will always be cold and independent people anywhere in the world, and there are few. For this reason it never comes to the conclusion that one country people are colder than others. Take into account your culture and education! And try to look at your own beam of your eye instead of looking at your brother’s cisco.
Before reaching the conclusion that Japanese are cold, try to review the concept of what it really means to be a cold person. I don’t like making comparisons! But to say that Japan is a cold country because of the culture of being reserved and some reported cases, while our country has many more people without a splash of love, compassion and respect for others, it is a great hypocrisy!
Therefore, The Japanese who do not like to talk or have physical contact, prefer to keep their feelings and problems, or have difficulties to socialize, are not cold people but reserved. Cold people are those who don’t care about others, who have no feelings, compassion, or piety, who don’t respect others. That is, cold people are thieves, murderers and bad educated, which is the sad reality that dominates our dear Brazil.