Guide to how to conquer and date a Japanese man


We’ve already made a guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese woman, but when it comes to men and boys the situation is totally different. While in the West men need to do hard work to win over a girl, in Japan women who need to devote themselves hard to conquer a man’s heart.

Culturally the Japanese are very shy, even more than women. The result of this is a population full of single adults and without any loving relationships. That’s why many Japanese prefer to relate to foreigners, because dealing with Japanese men is not usually easy.

Many Western women dream of marrying Japanese, so we made this long guide on how to conquer and date a Japanese. Perhaps this guide will serve lightly for girls who wish to conquer other Asian men like Koreans or Chinese.

Guide to how to conquer and date a japanese man

Remembering that if you want to conquer a Japanese descendant here in Brazil, most of the time they are like Brazilians, then use the standard methods. I personally recommend choosing your partner well, because both men and women nowadays are very superficial, empty and selfish who think only of pleasures than love.

Myths and lies about relationships with Japanese boys

Some people watch too many animes and end up thinking that in general every Japanese man prefers cute kawaii-style girls. It is true that cute girls stand out as Japanese beauty, but in reality there are few men who really dress up as anime characters. Japan is not a country full of otakus as some think, are a minority.

Some claim that Japanese repudiate Western women, but in fact this mistake is due to various cultural issues. I believe that the same goes for Westerners who repudiate Japanese can stereotypes or other generalizations. Because it’s really much easier to relate to people who speak your language and have their customs. If the person follows all the points mentioned in the article, there is no reason to worry about this widespread idea.

Guide to how to conquer and date a japanese man

Some believe that Japanese are cold, but again this is a mistake by cultural differences. If you really understand how a Japanese’s head works won’t have those stupid thoughts. Japanese are raised from childhood to always thinking about the next of what in themselves, they just lack the ease of showing it.

Yes, let’s not deny that there are interested Japanese, without love, who betray and countless other negative aspects. Unfortunately this is common in every culture, because every human being is different from each other, and evil is present in every earth. Just don’t have to be afraid or have negative thoughts about everything, otherwise you’ll never be happy! Just be smart!

What do you need to know before you conquer a Japanese?

Japanese men are usually quite different from one of the others, but they have similar characteristics. A Japanese can be sloppy or care too much about appearance and beauty as much as a woman. Some men even use makeup and take longer to get ready than a woman.

Guide to how to conquer and date a japanese man

Japanese boys don’t usually care about foreign girls, some already find japanese dating work, so you imagine foreigners with all the cultural challenges? You have to work hard, run after and be yourself! Some women think about using their body and Western appearance as an advantage, but try to prioritize their personality.

Japanese men like affordable, graceful, respectful, modest, innocent, friendly, sensitive and mostly cute and shy girls. It may be an impossible mission for some girls, but remember that every human being is different, so you must analyze your plays and use the classic clichés of conquest and flirtation.

The Japanese do not usually express their feelings for words, they usually do this with actions. We can observe that many relationships in Japan begin because the girl who confessed her feelings and not the man. Don’t try to go up by touching or grabbing the man because that’s not common in Japan.

Guide to how to conquer and date a japanese man

Remember, remember! Japanese men don’t usually take the first step!

What to do to conquer a Japanese man?

Unfortunately many Japanese end up caring too much about appearance. So you may need to take good care of your skin, clothing and also try to lose a few pounds because Japanese competition is very thin and Japanese love lean (because they look fragile and cute). Do not give up if it does not fit these patterns, because each pan has its lid, even frying pan.

Don’t even think about appealing to sensuality, some Japanese don’t like it. Wear decent clothes, which don’t reveal too much, sometimes children’s and fluffy clothes have a better result than certain necklines. Careful at the time of flirting, Japanese don’t like western darings. You will need a lot of patience to conquer the Japanese you want!

Guide to how to conquer and date a japanese man

Some appearance care is essential. Japanese like girls who smell good, with a white smile and with a posture. Maybe watching some animes and doramas of novels can help you know how girls behave close to men and how the Japanese react.

Japanese still prefer old methods, a perfume card can be a good move to win over the boy. Remember that on February 14th is Valentine’s Day in Japan, you need to make a chocolate and give as a gift to express your feelings. If he’s interested, he’ll repay on March 14th.

Other main points are: 

  • Learn about your culture;
  • Learn the language;
  • Understand Japanese humor;
  • Keep an open mind;

It is worth remembering that in Japan, it is not uncommon for girls to confess their love (kokuhaku). When the time comes you should express your feelings and be prepared for both answers. You don’t have it! You need to chase the yes!

Guide to how to conquer and date a japanese man

Understanding a little the head of Japanese men

There are a few things you need to know to have a good relationship or conquer a Japanese. Let’s list some interesting things that Japanese men like below:

  • Japanese men have fetish for uniforms, whether high school, office, tourism, stewardess or others.
  • Japanese men like women who act as housewives;
  • The Japanese value their male friends very much;
  • Half of Japanese men don’t care if the woman is older;
  • Relations between Senpai and Kouhai for the Japanese are eternal;
  • The Japanese usually have a maternal complex;
  • Japanese men are basically children;
  • For the Japanese the work is more important than love;
  • The first things the Japanese observe in a woman, following the order are: eyes, style, bust, hips, lips and legs;
  • Japanese men do not usually despise or hate their old relationships;
Guide to how to conquer and date a japanese man

Now let’s list some things that Japanese men don’t like and some points you need to know not to falter:

  • Japanese men don’t like to talk about their job;
  • There are times that Japanese men want to be alone;
  • Women who text every hour throughout the day;
  • When women reject an invitation;

If you remember all the points mentioned in this article, you will know how to react during a meeting or relationship with Japanese men. The important thing is not to despair if you enter any uncomfortable situation. Intercultural relationships are successful when both parties accept the challenges each one presents.

Guide to how to conquer and date a japanese man

How to have a good relationship with Japanese?

There is no secret, you will find rude and arrogant men, but you will also find sensitive and compassionate men. No matter what kind of man you encounter, they’re simple creatures to understand and deal with, they’re basically kids. No matter if it’s Western or Asian, if you see a man with a smile on his face acting like a fool, you’ve succeeded!

Basically just remember that Japanese men are slow, sentimental and shy. Also remember that hardly Japanese show affection in public or sometimes he will simply demonstrate his feelings with actions rather than words. To finish we will again summarize the points mentioned in this and in the other article with few words:

  • Japanese men are very shy;
  • Japanese men don’t worry about being single, so you need to fight;
  • Be yourself;
  • Have common sense, be moderate;
  • No man is the same, adapt;
  • Japanese men do not usually expose their feelings with words;
  • You need to understand and respect Japanese culture;
  • You need to learn the basics of the Japanese language;
  • You need to know what he likes;
  • You need to be patient and slow;
  • Declare yourself in the Japanese way (kokuhaku);
  • Japanese look a lot for appearance, so get dressed;
  • Japanese men also take great care of their appearance;
  • Don’t forget the important dates;
  • Don’t work too hard to scare the boy;

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